Most of the time, after you’ve been with someone for a little while, the sex starts to become a little routine. You both know what each other likes, and what you need to do to get the other person off. And while it’s a good thing that you both know each other that well…it can start to feel a little robotic. One way that you can avoid this is to continually try new sex positions. This will not only add some variety in your life, but it can be a great way to explore you and your partner’s likes and dislikes. In case you don’t know what to do, or where to start, I’m here to help. The last Thursday of every month, I will highlight a new sex position that you and your partner can try. Before we get started on that though, here are some things to keep in mind when you’re trying new things in the bedroom, or just in general:
1. Keep an Open Mind - You may initially think that something is too hard, dirty, or embarrassing to try, but if there’s one thing that “50 Shades of Grey” has taught us, it’s that women all over have a hidden lust for breaking out of their comfort zone. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to jump right in to the most advanced sex position or move, but just don’t rule something out because you haven’t tried it. Sex is very personal, so take it at your speed and what feels right for you, but don’t be afraid to jump outside of the lines a little…you might discover something that blows your mind.
2. Communicate with Your Partner - This is probably the most important advice there is, in my opinion, and I can’t emphasize enough how important it is. When trying new things, communication is huge! It’s important that your partner knows what you’re thinking, and vice versa. If something is uncomfortable or doesn’t feel quite right, let them know. Sex should be enjoyable for both of you, and I doubt they will hold it against you if you tell them you’re uncomfortable. Talking about what you like and don’t like will also help the experience be more pleasurable. So don’t hesitate to talk with your partner, and encourage them to do the same!
3. Be Able to Laugh - Inevitably when you’re trying new things, there is a trial and error phase. So, if during that yoga inspired inverted position you happen to fall over…laugh! Don’t be so serious about it that you get embarrassed, because that can most likely kill the mood for both you and your partner, and will make you less want to try difficult positions less. Instead, just laugh with your partner. I guarantee you that they are probably so happy you were willing to try new and crazy things, and so impressed with your yoga handstand, that they won’t care.