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Sex! It's everywhere. It's on the TV, on the computer, and probably more than you like to admit, it's on your mind. Some people think of it all the time. Some more than others. It's human nature. We just don't use it for making babies. We have it for pleasure. We do it because it makes us feel better. It makes you feel good. We use it to show affection. We do it because it's fun. You can lose yourself in the heat of the moment, but there's one important thing you should always remember - Be Safe!
Safe sex education is important for everyone, no matter what your age, sexual preference, race, religion, ethnic group, or what have you. Let's face it - Schools are not helping as much as we would hope. Safe sex education should be happening at home as well. We could all learn a thing or two from our family and friends, just make sure that you're getting facts. You know everything you hear isn't true. We need safe sex education for everyone no matter where you get it. It should be taught in a comfortable environment by someone that can elaborate more on it than just biologics. That is just the basics. You can even learn yourself from the internet as long as you know what you are reading is true and knowledgeable. Make sure everything you read that is back up with references. Believe it or not, not everything you read on the internet, newspapers, and in the media is the actual truth. There's a lot of gossip, rumors, and myths floating around. Standing on your head will not prevent pregnancy. Saran wrap is not made to be used as a condom. You get the picture, I'm sure.
First, abstinence is absolutely the safest sex that there is, but let's face it, that's not really working for most people. Statistics shows that most states that use abstinence-only education programs didn't delay the "event" from actually happening no more than if they had the "traditional" sex education program in schools, which is usually a bunch of biological charts and jargon that kids really don't care to hear about anyway. I mean really, didn't we learn all that stuff in biology class. Human nature wants what it wants and that usually ends up in having sex. There is masturbation, but that is only going to go so far. The human mind is curious. It wants to experience and learn. Everyone has a hunger for that experience. Nothing is wrong with abstinence if you have that willpower, but for a lot of people that is just not an option.
Secondly, contraceptives are one of the most important things you need in order to practice safe sex. If the correct ones are used the correct ways, then not only will they prevent pregnancy, they will prevent disease too. In this day and age, this is very important. There are many diseases that are incurable. Treatable but incurable. There are MANY different types of contraceptives. Most common is the male condom. There is also the female condom. There are also diaphragms, cervical caps, contraceptive sponges, and spermicides. There are also hormonal methods as well, but they don't prevent diseases, only pregnancy. No contraceptive is 100% effective, just abstinence and sterilization are 100 %. If you use more than one at a time, for example, a condom and spermicide then the more protected you are. Safe sex is about more than just contraceptives. I bet no one ever taught you that.
The next two things go hand-in-hand. Boundaries and communication are very important when it comes to safe sex. Boundaries in a sexual relationship should always be respected. I was always taught that what might be kinky to you might not be kinky to another or vice versa. There are people that think anything other than just intercourse is kinky. There are even people that think any position other than missionary position is kinky. As they say, different strokes for different folks. There are many different ways that you can set boundaries in the bedroom. Communication is very important in safe sex as well. Most people aren't taught this, but should be. When you are able to talk to your sexual partner about your likes and dislikes then it keeps experiences safe. I do think that sex should be adventurous. Let's look at the obvious - everyone has fantasies. Shouldn't you act on them? How do you know if you like or dislike something if you've never tried it? In my opinion, life's too short to just do it missionary style. Why not throw some adult toys into spice things up When you and your partner communicate that you both would like to try new things, you can choose a "safe word" for the new experience. It is a way to communicate during the experience/experiment so that if one of you become uncomfortable or doesn't like what is happening then you speak the "safe word" to let the other one know to stop what they are doing. Then you can move on to something that you both know you like without ruining the mood.
You can't do these things though if you don't communicate with your sexual partner about your boundaries. Everyone has boundaries. We're all human and have our limits. You are both adults and if you are trusting them enough to have sex with them, then you should be able to trust them enough to talk to them. Both parties need to comfortable with what exactly is going on. Thus, making it safe for the both of you. Safe sex is better than sex with consequences, especially those that last a lifetime, whether that be bringing another human being into this world or getting an incurable disease that will affect every sex act you have until the end of your days. Safe sex should be the only sex you have and we should be concerned with educating people about it in every aspect.