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Massage is all about you being emotionally present, touching your partner with intention, and paying attention to their reactions! Before I tell you some of the specifics on giving a great massage, there are a couple of tips that I will give you before you even start your massage.
Make sure that your nails are groomed well and don't have any jagged edges. Getting cut by a rough fingernail can change the mood really quick!
Create and set up your environment ahead of time. Light some candles, turn on some soft relaxing music, turn off the phones, close the curtains, and lock the doors so you won't be disrupted by anyone or anything. You want your full focus on your partner. When selecting music to play, make sure that it feels sexy and soothing when you listen to it. The music will be a large part of setting a romantic mood, therefore avoid playing anything that is too loud or energetic. Set up the music in an out-of-way corner and have it gently playing throughout the massage. Make sure that it is set to repeat, so that you don't have to get up during the massage.
Set the room temperature at a comfortable level. You don't want either of you to be shivering or so hot that you can’t wait for the massage session to be over and done with. You want it to be super comfy and deeply relaxing.
Have your massage oil warming in a bowl of hot water for pleasurable sensation. Cold oils on your partner's body can actually make them tenser. So warming your oil ahead of time or using a warming oil is best! If you want to give a great massage, then oils or lubes are a must! You may want to think ahead and get some flavored edible oils so that your hands won't be the only thing massaging your partner.
Have a glass of water, wine, or something sweet to sip on ready for you and your partner.
Never break contact with your partner's skin once you have started. This is true when giving any type of a massage. You want to keep that constant connection with your partner at all times!
Take your time and make sure that you are gentle! For a sensual massage, this is super important. This is meant to be a slow process that builds into such uncontrollable sexual desire for both of you that the end result leaves you both breathless!
Now, on to the Sensual massage tips!
Start by having both of you strip down. Have them lay face down on the bed or on a nice soft blanket on the floor. Although a soft bed is great for making love, it isn't ideal for a massage. A flat, firm, stable area is best, like a futon mattress, or just some soft blankets on the floor. Place pillows under their neck, knees, and ankles to make them more comfy. Then cover them with a sheet or light blanket. You want to be able to reach every part, and I mean every part, of their body without effort. It is very sensual as you move down in the massage sliding the sheet down as you massage your way down.
Next grab some of your warm oil and rub it on you. Rub some on your hands, arms, and chest having your partner watch this. This will get your partners engines revving. This is a great turn on and will really get things going. Besides making your hands soft and warm, massage oil reduces friction and makes the massage easier when you start to knead, rub, and stroke your partner's tired and stressed muscles. Nice warm, aromatic massage oils can help tease your senses making thing begin heating up!
Gently sit on your partner's bum. This increases the intimacy, especially when you are both naked. Then put your hands on your partner and start massaging. Here are a couple of great movements you can try.
Compression is an easy movement to master and great for many body parts. Lay one hand flat on their body (whatever part you are working on), press the other hand on top of it, and rotate slowly.
Stroking works wonders on areas both large and small. Keep your fingers together, thumbs parallel, and palms in full contact with the part you are working on, and make long, gentle movements. Apply pressure when stroking toward your partner's heart, less pressure in the opposite direct.
Kneading is prefect for fleshy areas such as biceps, buttocks, and thighs. Simply lift and squeeze the area you are working, with your palms in full contact with your partner's skin.
Put a good amount of oil on your partner. Gently, start by gliding with smooth strokes using your whole hand, especially when massaging the neck and shoulders, down and up the arms. Make your movements rhythmic in motion working together in a continual synchronization. Don't rush this, make sure you go slow and take your time. Work your way down their back moving with longer and deeper strokes. Make sure you are using your well oiled body for pressure and not the strength of your arms. Lightly press your chest against your partners back letting other parts of your body lightly skim against theirs. The sensation from your skin touching theirs is super stimulating! Lightly kiss your partner's jaw, neck, and then work down their back. Licking the lower back in a circular motion then move slowly up their spine, while gently breathing or blowing after your lick will drive them wild!
Stop kissing them and slowly start massaging down their back moving to their bum. Make sure that your partner's legs are open enough so you can easily and lightly skim up and down their inner thighs! This move will get your partner squirming! The inner thighs touched sensuously will cause an involuntary reaction of pure pleasure and stimulation!
Time to roll your partner on to their back. Make sure you keep a hand on them at all times; you don't want to lose contact. Put some oil on their chest and gently massage their shoulders working down their arms and back up. Skim over her breasts, or his pecs with the palm of your hand with plenty of oil. Want to get them squirming even more, move in a circular motion over their nipples for a few.
When they are getting really aroused, it is time to move on. Rub their stomach a bit and then start kissing their stomach working down to their inner thighs, all the while keeping your hands on them and massaging them. After a bit of kissing, go on to massage their inner thighs and moving to their 'party zones'. Gently massage her clit or his rub up and down his shaft for a few minutes.
Experiment and see what 'works' for your partner. When they start moaning or gasping, stay there for a bit. Slowly glide your other hand up to their nipples and rub. After a couple of minutes move on to another spot. Remember, you are doing this for your partner and not for you. You are massaging them with the intent to massage and not doing the massage to get 'lucky'. By the time you are done, they will be begging you for some hot, sensuous, fun.
Make sure that you always completely finish one area before you move on to the next area. Try to keep talking to a bare minimum if not at all. Keeping it quiet is part of the relaxing, sensuous atmosphere that you are aiming to create.
When you have finished up your massage, try completing the night with a nice romantic bubble bath for two! Above all, just relax and have fun getting to know your partner even more!