The Truth About Anal Sex: Breaking Down The 4 Most Common Misconceptions

The Truth About Anal Sex: Breaking Down The 4 Most Common Misconceptions


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Your partner has been asking about anal sex – A LOT. You’re curious, but just not sure.

You’ve heard so many things, and you’re feeling a little uncomfortable. What’s it really like? What’s myth versus reality?

Back up a second while we break down the 4 most common misconceptions about anal sex.

Misconception #1 – Anal sex will hurt

While many people trying anal sex for the first time do experience discomfort, the key factor in avoiding pain is to be prepared!

When venturing into anal, rule number one is – lube, lube, lube (and more lube)! Lubricant is key to making every sexual experience more pleasurable, particularly when it comes to anal sex.

The anus and rectal tissues can’t produce lubricant naturally the way a vagina would. It’s essential to use a substantial amount of lube during anal sex to avoid unpleasant friction.

So – do you want to use a water-based or silicone-based lube?

While there is no hard and fast answer to lube-type and anal sex, our experts recommend a silicone-based lubricant, as they are often thicker and last longer than water-based lubes.

This is important during anal sex to ensure you remain comfortable throughout the duration of the act.

Some of our favorite silicone-based lubes for anal include ‘bedroom tested, doctor recommended’ Swiss Navy Silicone Lubricant and Gun Oil Silicone Lubricant.

Both of these bestselling lubricants are safe for use with condoms, which is definitely something you want to always look for when choosing your lube and condoms.

Suggested Read: How to Choose The Right Lube for You & Your Partner

Tasty tip: if you're looking for a flavored lube to enhance your anilingus, try Sliquid Naturals Cherry Vanilla. Explore our full assortment of anal lubricants here.

Misconception #2 – If it hurt the first time, it will always hurt

When it comes to avoiding discomfort during anal sex, aside from using enough lubricant, a major factor is simply adjusting to the new sensation.

Ultimately, many find anal sex incredibly pleasurable; however, allowing yourself (and your body) to relax and get comfortable with the feeling of anal sex can take time.

Our best advice is to start slow.

Begin experimenting with fingers and then advance towards using a training kit, which can be found among our selection of anal toys.

Another thrilling addition when experimenting with anal play is to try anal beads.

Created centuries ago in the Orient, anal beads were a fun way to increase your tolerance and enjoyment of anal sex.

Women: a little trick to get you relaxed is to stimulate your clitoris during anal penetration. This will encourage a pleasure over pain response.

Misconception # 3 – Anal sex is dirty (literally)

This is one of the biggest misconceptions out there. While the anus and the rectum can contain trace fecal matter, proper washing before engaging in anal play is a non-issue.

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The most important element of cleanliness here is ensuring that you don’t go immediately from anal intercourse to vaginal intercourse.

You will transfer bacteria that can cause urinary tract infections and pose other risks.

When switching to vaginal sex post anal, ensure you use an antimicrobial soap and thoroughly clean the area.

Misconception #4 – you don’t need to use a condom

A widespread and dangerous misconception, because there is no risk of pregnancy, many lovers believe that condoms are not necessary during anal sex.

However, the risks for STIs are as great as with vaginal sex.

HPV, HIV, chlamydia, gonorrhea, and herpes can all be transmitted through anal sex. You should always wear a condom to protect your health and your partner’s health.

One of our top condom recommendations for anal sex is the Okamoto Zero Zero Four Aloe Condom, which includes a special aloe lubricant to relieve discomfort during penetration. Explore a variety of condom options for anal sex.

Suggested Read: Anal Sex 101 - Choose Wisely, Stay Safe, Have Fun

Bonus tip: A little rimming can be a lot of fun, but to protect yourself from the transmission of bodily fluids, bacteria, harmful germs, and sexually transmitted infections during analingus, consider wearing a dental dam, such as the Trust Dental Dams Pack.

If you’re new to the intriguing world of anal sex, just remember a few things – go slow, be prepared, and communicate with your partner about what’s in your comfort zone and what isn’t.

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